Step One:
- Allow yourself time to heal, and know that you can heal. Whether the loss is due to death, rejection, or other reason.
- It is normal to grieve over a loss of a love for any reason.
- It usually takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to begin to put their lives back together again. It sometimes takes five years for individuals and families to get over the emotional pain and trauma. Many people can have serious health and emotional problems during this time.
Step Two:
- Realize that you still can find happiness.
- Realize that you can control how you think, what you think about, and how much.
- A key is to concentrate on the positives you have in the present. Not thinking about the future or past.
Step Three:
- Activily work to feel better.
- Act happy and smile.
- Even if you don't feel that way, it should start to make you feel that way. Life will be better.
Healing Helpers
- Being around people and getting involved in helping others is a good way to accelerate the proces of healing.
Laughing helps too, so see a comedy, watch funny things. That is part of the reason the Irish have a party when someone passes away.
Helping others helps you loose sight of your own losses.
It is strongly suggested that you take the intensity of your feelings and re-direct them into doing something constructive that helps others.
