WHY DO WE HAVE SEX ??

Why do people have sex? Seems about as obvious as Ms. Star Jones having weight loss surgery, but apparently it is not.
In a recent study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior (I don’t read it; I swear. I actually saw this study on the Today Show), 2,000 people were asked why they had sex.

The answer? Well, surprisingly, there were more than one. 237 reasons, to be exact.

The top three most popular responses for both men and women seemed the most obvious:

1. They were attracted to the person

2. They wanted to experience physical pleasure

3. “It feels good”

The other 234 reasons were random, interesting and – sometimes – scary.

Some included: to burn calories, for revenge, to make babies, to get closer to the person, to get closer to God and to pass STDs onto someone else (yikes!).

My personal reasons for having sex:

1. I like it

2. My man wants it

3. I’m H-O-R-N-Y

4. It feels GREAT .. and therefore i like to do it

Then again, that’s just me. I can’t judge others for wanting to have sex to fit in with their friends or to get ahead in the work place.

The most interesting thing to come from this study, however, is the fact that both men and women wanted to have sex for physical more than emotional reasons.

Which finally puts an end to the “sex changes everything” argument.

Women can no longer be viewed as emotional/love seeking/weepy in the bedroom anymore.

We – being the women of the 21st centry– want sex for the same top three reasons men do. Mostly because we need some good old fashion passion. Not because we want to form a connection or to make our lives more like a romantic comedy.

Nope. We just want to get some.

And is there any reason better than that?

I WANT TO BE WITH YOU....

I want to be with you,but your millions of miles away.

i wish you would call just to ask about my day.

it would make things so much better if i could hear you voice,

I guess i can't complain too much, after all this was my choice.

i wish i could hold you in my arms and look in to your eyes.

i promise i will always be true to you and never tell you lies.

its so hard to go to sleep without you by my side.

my tears are the only thing ill ever try to hide.

i lie awake in bed as the tears stream down my face,

they keep going until the hit my pillow case.

I Miss You loabivaa......... I just cant be like this without you

HERE IS A BEAUTIFUL STORY ABOUT LOVE

Once upon a time there was an island where all feelings lived;Hapiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all others including Love.One Day it was announced to all the feelings. That the Island wasgoing to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So all the feelings preparetheir boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed.

She wanted to preserve the island paradise until the last possiblemoment.When the island was almost totally under,Love decided toleave. She begun looking for someone to ask for help. Just then,Richness was passing by in a grand boat.

Love asked, "Richness, can I come with you in your boat".Richness answered "I am sorry, but theres a lot of silver and gold.On my boat and there would be no room for you anywhere".

The Love decided to ask Vanity, Who was passing by in a beautifulvessel, for help. Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please!" "I canthelp you", Vanity said."You are all wet and will damage my beautifulboat!" Next Love saw sadness passing by.

Love said, "Sadness please let me go with you". Sadnessanswered, "Love im sorry, but i just need to be alone now". ThenLove saw Happiness.

Love cried out,"Happiness, please take me with you!" but, Happinesswas so enjoyed that he didn't hear love calling to him. Love beganto cry. Then she heard a voice say,"Come Love, I will take you withme!" It was an elder.

Love felt so blessed and enjoyed that she forgot to ask the eldersname. When they arrived on land the elder went his way.Love realized how much she owed the elder. Love then found Knowledgeand asked, "Who was it that help me?

""It was Time" knowledge answered. "But why did Time help me when noone else would?" Love asked. Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdomand sincerity answered,"Because only Time is capable of understandinghow GREAT LOVE is".

WHY DO PEOPLE SAY LOVE IS BLIND .??

The women who is beaten on a regular basis by her husband but stays with him is blinded by love.

The man who is cheated on on a regular basis by his girlfriend but always forgive her and believes she will not do it again is blinded by love.

Love does not see what a person is really like.

Have you ever been so in love with someone that you thought they were perfect only to find out that they are just a normal human being with selfish tendencies? Then you were blinded by love.

Love will make a person seem and appear how you want them to be. You will mould their image in your mind and will deny anything that they do or say which contradicts this image.Love will make you filter out the bad stuff and only see the good stuff in them.

Eventually the light of this all consuming love will die down and you will start to wake up and some people even wonder why the heck they are with that person.

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought who are you? Who is this person I am living with? Then you were blinded by love.

Love is like being a horse with blinkers galloping down a road of gold, and on the side of the road a great battle is going on, a war of many different conflicting forces but you can only see the golden road. You have your blinkers on and at the end of the road is a waterfall which will take you down to the very depths of Hades itself.

Have you ever looked at someone you were with when you were younger and been almost in shock that you were with such a person? Then you were blinded by love.

Love will only see the pleasure and the attention that they are receiving from the object of their desire, it will not at first see the actual person..........therefore it is blind

WHY AN ADDICTION TO PORN ?

Why do people develop an addiction to porn? For some, it’s by accident, especially young boys who stumble upon their dad’s pornography magazine stash. Some experiment never thinking they’ll develop an addiction to porn. And for others, it is a deliberate choice.

An addiction to porn substitutes as reality as some boys/men escape to their fantasies where every woman’s desire is to please them. Escaping into a fantasy becomes an oasis for boys/men who don’t relate to women due to fear of rejection, never expressing their interest in the opposite gender. So, they actually reject themselves not giving girls/women a chance to reject them. Then there are others who got up the nerve to approach the opposite sex only to be rejected in middle or high school or college. For them, an addiction to porn is an oasis from pain, depression, and rejection.

Remember, fantasies never fail and never reject their creator. By feeding the male ego, porn puts you in charge with women at your disposal. Porn’s deception for some is that the girl of your dreams is yours and all she wants to do is have sex with you whenever you want it. Being in charge somehow makes you feel like the man you always wanted to be or thought you should be -- possibly making you feel better about yourself for the wrong reasons. When you are not having your pornography fix, maybe you feel less self-confident and less of a man. This is wrong and it is Satan’s lie.

Masturbating does bring momentary pleasure, but most guys wish they were having sex with a real woman instead of their imagination and their hand. Some people develop an addiction to porn due to childhood sexual abuse. Their shame is often accompanied by feelings of guilt that the abuse was their fault. They feel that they are unworthy of a healthy relationship and this can drive them to porn. Living in a fantasy is even more depressing when you are to required resurface in the real world. Feeling inferior or that you will never meet Miss or Mrs. Right is a deception of Satan. Don’t fall for it. We can’t help being tricked some times, but we don’t have to stay there.

Why Do Most Marriages Fail?

Roughly 50% of all marriages fail and many of those dont even make it past the first year. Understanding why these marriages fail can be key to ensuring that your own marriage does not fail. Some factors that contribute to the failure of a marriage include a lack of communication or poor communication, financial issues and even the circumstances of the marriage. All of these issues can exist in a healthy and enduring marriage but if they are not dealt with properly they can lead to the failure of the marriage. Communication is critical to the success of a marriage. Without proper communication, conflict resolution becomes a difficult issue. If the couple lacks the communication skills necessary to resolve their problems, then even the smallest problems will become insurmountable. Communication allows a relationship to grow and thrive by giving the partners an opportunity to share their dreams, concerns, hopes and desires with each other. Without sharing in this way a couple will not grow as close together as possible. Communication also gives the couple a healthy way to resolve their arguments. If one or both partners lack effective communications skills it becomes difficult to resolve arguments because the couple is not able to understand each others points of view. If the marriage is already in trouble, both partners in the marriage must be dedicated to working on their communication skills in order to improve or salvage their marriage. The absence of effective communication techniques can lead to the failure of a marriage. Love may conquer all but sometimes even love isnt enough to save a marriage when there are significant financial concerns. While financial concerns in and of themselves may not be the cause of a failed marriage the tension that financial concerns create is often the culprit in a failed marriage. Financial concerns can be a heavy burden to bear and when a couple is struggling to meet their financial obligations, there can be a tremendous amount of pressure in the relationship. This pressure may be enough to destroy an otherwise healthy marriage. If one of the partners in the marriage becomes obsessed with the marital finances they can begin to neglect other aspects of the marriage. This neglectful behavior has the affect of making the spouse feel ignored and lonely which can be damaging to a marriage. Often one of the partners will become consumed with the financial affairs and this can be very damaging to a marriage. Even the circumstances surrounding the marriage can lead to its failure. A marriage of convenience is often not a healthy marriage. When the decision to marry is based on something other than true love, it is likely that the marriage will fair. Some examples of marriage circumstances that often lead to failure are getting married because there is a baby on the way or because the couple is feeling pressure to get married by friends and family members. Neither of these reasons are truly valid reasons for marriage and often leads to divorce. When a couple marries for reasons other than true love the marriage is often doomed before it starts. Marrying too young is another reason why many marriages fail. While the right age to marry varies greatly depending on the person, many people argue that the teens and early twenties are too early to get married. Getting married before you have had a chance to enjoy many of lifes experiences can result in resentfulness in the marriage and can be the cause of failure of the marriage. Another reason why many marriages fail is that society no longer places importance on the institution of marriage. Today it is common for couples to live together and have children without being married. This degeneration of society devalues marriage and results in a higher percentage of failed marriages. With so little value placed on marriage in todays society, couples are not committed to making their marriage work and are often quick to give up on the marriage and each other. Many marriages today are doomed before they even start. Marriage is no longer seen as a necessary step in a relationship so many couples are quick to divorce without making an honest effort to resolve their problems. Communication breakdown, financial difficulties as well as circumstances of the marriage are all problems that can cause many marriages to fail.

LETS HAVE A LAUGH...

Chinese Name confusion!!

Caller: Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan?
Operator: Yes, you can speak to me.
Caller: No, I want to speak to Annie Wan!
Operator: Yes I understand you want to speak to anyone. You can speak to me. Who is this? Caller: I'm Sam Wan . And I need to talk to Annie Wan! It's urgent.
Operator: I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone ! But what's this urgent matter about?
Caller: Well... just tell my sister Annie Wan that our brother Noe Wan was involved in an accident. Noe Wan got injured and now Noe Wan is being sent to the hospital..
Operator : Look, if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn't an urgent matter! You may find this hilarious but I don't have time for this!
Caller: You are so rude! Who are you?
Operator: I'm Saw Ree .
Caller: Yes! You should be sorry .. Now give me your name!!
Operator: That's what I said. I'm Saw Ree .
Caller: Oh.....God