Men's Killer Dating Mistakes and how to avoid it !

Once you are good at meeting women online,or anywhere for that matter…

The next step is to be able to qualify the lady quickly. By qualify I mean to decide whether to see her again and allow her into your life. This is a very important skill for many reasons.

Here is the Killer mistake a lot of men make!

They spend too much time with a woman they should have "disqualified" 20 minutes after they met her. Mainly because they're glad to meet any woman who shows an interest in them.

What's the best way to avoid the pain and hassle of a bad partner? To be able to disqualify a future partner!Not easy I know.

See, the men that are good with women, don’t waste their time and energy on someone they instinctively know is going to be trouble. These guys have good qualifying skills, being able to move on quickly from un-responsive or unsuitable women. Then spending their time with only highly qualified dates.This is ‘effective time management’ for producing the best results!

So how do you qualify you ask?Mmmmhhh, good question and a skill not practiced by many.

Let’s look at it and give an example.

What men good with women do is to have clearly defined criteria and as soon as they identify a trait that is outside of their criteria, they politely discontinue interest and move on.

You need to know what your desired outcome is, Whether it is finding one lady for a permanent one on one committed relationship. Or you may want adventure and good times without too much commitment. If you don't decide your desired outcome, you can't define your ideal dating partner. Once you do know your outcome, however, the next step is to define the criteria of the "ideal dating partner."

Once you have that criteria defined, you want to as Quickly as possible find out if a woman fits that criteria. If she doesn’t, then you need to spend your time identifying those who do. This is where most men make the ‘Killer mistake.’

They stick with a woman they should "disqualify" , hoping she'll develop the traits they're looking for. If she doesn't fit your criteria, decide and move on quickly. Then spend your valuable time and energy finding one who does.

Heres a common example. If you're looking to be married, and you're dating a woman who says, "I just want to have some fun and meet people, and if it goes further, we'll see what happens,"then you need to disqualify her. She's looking for fun and adventure, not marriage, so she’ll be hard work to change to the traits you are looking for. And waste your valuable time…Fair enough? So you’ll need to find and spend time with the type of women that suits your criteria. Write your criteria down and look at it BEFORE you send kisses, winks and emails at online dating sites.

If you just want to date and meet as many women as possible, Your criteria can be small. However this Gets frustrating and disappointing as you are not spending quality time with quality women. Then a Year has gone by and you’ve had a lot of fun, but still not a really special, high quality woman in your life, that I’m sure you desire…

So the key to avoid the ‘killer mistake’ with online dating or any dating, is to define what YOU WANT.Then put as much time and energy as you can with women who fit that criteria, quickly moving on from women who don't. As hard and harsh as that may be, your success with women will be a direct result of how you manage your time! This will lead you to finding the type of woman who you want and look forward to spending time with.

This leads to a feeling of well being, success and contentment.

Good luck, I hope you’ve got value from this article :))

The Logic Of FEMALES – or Lack There Of

Many males complain that they don't understand females. Many females complain that they don't understand males. We also have the classic saying that men are from mars and women are from Venus. Physically both sexes are very similar and are of the same species so what is the problem?

After much reading on the subject, there seems to be a general consensus that there is a fundamental difference in the way men and women think. The bottom line is that men think with logic but women think with emotions. This is why a male gets so frustrated with a females sometimes irrational behavior.

Additionally, a female rarely says directly what she wants. Instead, she will use reverse psychology by asking the male a series of questions until she gets the desired answer. If she does not get the desired answer she will take the huffs and give the male 'the cold shoulder treatment'. She thinks this will alert the male that something is wrong and he will do what she wants….with out actually telling him :(

Meanwhile the male is left dazed and confused as to what happened. After which an argument is usually required to get to the bottom of the problem. The whole situation could have been avoided if the female had stated directly what she wanted in the first place.

When asked why they do this, most women will either answer that they don't realize they're doing this or they simply don't know why. Many an argument could be avoided if what came out of a girls mouth was the same as the thought that was processed in her brain. But alas, it is not.

The classic example is a couple driving along a road. The female is hungry so she says to the male 'would you like to get something to eat?' The male replies 'no thanks I'm not hungry at the minute' and keeps driving. She then takes it thick because she didn't get the answer she was looking for. If she had said 'I'm hungry, pull in at the next shop so I can get some food' he would have done just that without question.

This all stems back to the fact that a female thinks with her emotions, not logic. This is why a male cannot understand a female rational. Males cannot read between the lines. They are not psychic or clairvoyant and they need everything spelled out to them in black and white.

Males often also complain that females are moody, have mood swings and show irrational or erratic behavior. This is especially apparent in times of stress, emergencies or significant events where body chemicals and emotions are highly stimulated.

Because a females behavior is affected by her emotions and her emotions are affected by her body chemistry and her body chemistry is in a state of flux from one month to the next, it can only be expected that a female would exhibit erratic behavior that is a mystery to a man whose body does not go through a constant monthly cycle of change. Re-read that last paragraph guys if it went over your head.

Unfortunately this behavior is genetically built into a female’s body. So sorry guys, you are going to have to live with it and while you can't get rid of it, you can at least be aware of it and try to understand it.

So in short, guys need to try to interpret better what a girl is saying, as it may not be exactly what she means. Girls need to try better to say exactly what they mean, if they want their guy to do what they want, without playing head games with them. Whether this is actually possible (as it goes against our genetic programming) is another case entirely.

10 Steps to Be a Better Husband

Everyone worries too much about bills, getting the kids off to school, and why the dog keeps peeing on the carpet. It's time to light that fire again and remind her of all the reasons why she married you to begin with. Here are 10 steps that will get you on your way to husband of the year.

1) Take an interest in something your wife is really passionate about.
This can be especially tough for guys, because we generally feel that if someone else has interests that differ from ours, they're morons. It's not an easy task, and being able to show interest in something that matters to someone you love shows growth—and that's terrifying. Good, but terrifying. Accomplish this and you'll make her feel better about herself, and you get better insight into what makes her tick.

2) Put the kids to bed.
Once a week give her the night off and put the kids to bed by yourself. Let her take a hot bath, read a book, or check gossip on the Web and forget about the kids. It ranks somewhere between low-end jewelry and a Hawaiian vacation.

3) Learn to apologize.
This is the easiest one, and the hardest one. A marriage is a marathon, and we all fly off the handle too quick or let our temper get the best of us sometimes. When you're wrong, it's best to step up and apologize. It's amazing how fast "I'm sorry" can defuse a stupid argument about something you can't even remember.

4) Thank her for putting up with you.
Every once in a while, just thank her for putting up with you. That's all you have to say. Don't launch into a list of your faults, or the story about coming home two days late from that Vegas bachelor party. Just thank her, and let her know that you understand that you're not the easiest person in the world to live with.

5) Clean up after yourself.
Take care of that late night snack or morning cereal bowl. Setting them in the sink is one thing, but go that extra mile and actually put them in the dishwasher. After all, no one enjoys scraping bacon dip off a bowl that's been sitting too long or smelling the chili from the night before. A beer bottle on the counter the next morning is even worse.

6) Make time for just the two of you.
Take her on a date once a month. Surprise her by arranging child care, ordering a pizza for the kids, and getting a sitter. She will be so thrilled at your ability to take care of the details that reservations at the best restaurant in town aren't even necessary. The fact that you love her enough to do this would make a Big Mac taste like cracked crab.

7) Groom yourself.
Don't embarrass her when you venture out of the house. Check the ears, nose, neck and yes, feet for hair or other growths that shouldn't be there. She not only wants you to impress her friends by how you act, but also by how you look.

8) Get away from the family.
Yep, you're getting a free pass. This takes a left turn from the others, but it's essential. Get away from all your responsibilities and go camping or on a golf outing with the guys. You'll laugh, relax, and recharge your batteries. And all three will make you a much better husband when you return.

9) Deal with your side of the family.
Help your wife set expectations with your side of the family when it comes to making plans. Don't make her inform your parents that they won't be seeing their grandkids on Christmas this year—pick up the phone and do it yourself. Dealing with extended family can be a huge stress throughout the year, and you don't want the burden to fall entirely on her.

10) Don't lose your dating manners.
Remember, she's your wife, not one of your buddies. Don't burp during dinner, or squeeze one out during the movie as she's reaching for the popcorn. You wouldn't have done that while you were dating, and you shouldn't do it now. Continue to try and impress her. Do everything you can to keep the fire alive, and fight the urge to let the passion die. Find the new, hot place to eat or take her to see a cool band that's in town. Have fun, laugh, and make sure you tell her how great she looks.

LET'S HEAR IT: Did we leave anything off the 'be a better husband' list?

Proposal-Some tips to propose to your dream man

It is probably the time for conformation of your love. The sweetest moment of your life. I suggest tips to make your conformation successful.

Place of proposals:
Privacy is the best companion during proposal occasions. Make sure that you and your stay alone. Get to a place in silence because your voice should be in a low shrill that conveys your love on him. Beach,parks,Church or temples or at your home if you are dare enough. Hotel or restaurant are the best place for proposals.

· Think of a dim light and silence prevails around you. Candle with a crisp yellow flames enlighten your face, then mention marriage in the wonderful afterglow.

Notable points during proposals:

*Firstly, don't think you're all alone - 9% of proposals are from women to men, and 80% of men would accept a proposal from a woman.

*If you really do want to, make sure the answer is going to be yes. I have never met a couple who have survived the answer to a proposal being no. And remember, proposals aren't the answer to dodgy relationships

*Remember that actions speak louder than words. Show him what a great lifetime partner you could be through thoughtful actions, sincerity, kindness and other appealing traits.

*Do NOT do it if you've known the fellow for less than six months, exactly the point at which your rose-tinted specs will convince you both to say yes, before you discover his four previous convictions and his credit card bill.

*Don't get down on one knee, especially if you're in stilettos. Women rarely look good in this position and you may find his head tilting down your breasts. Plus, if you're already doing the asking, you don't want to look particularly craven

*At a maximum try to see his eye keen look for proposal reaction, Eyes are the best emotion expresser than words, but words convey to our satisfaction

*Try to make use of feb 14th(valentiens day). if you lose your nerve on February 14th, you could drop back to the more traditional methods, like mooching very slowly past jewellery shops (remember: men are stupid), asking him whether he likes gold or platinum...... ;-)

*Proposing to her on her birthday is another great way to go about it. And another positive aspect of it, she probably won't notice that you forgot to get her a birthday present.

Make a Kiss More Passionate…

Kissing is something that most couples do. Kissing well and with passion, however, is far less common. All too often, people fall into boring ruts and monotonous techniques that make kissing an undesirable prelude of more exciting activities to come. This is especially true for couples who have been together for awhile. To keep kissing fun or to rekindle the flame that was once there, observe the guidelines below.

1) What you do right before a kiss will set the mood. Gaze into their eyes and pay your sweetie a romantic compliment.

2) Hold your partner firmly, but gently in your arms. Put one arm around their back and put the other around the base of their head.

3) Occasionally, put both of your hands on your partner's cheeks to intensify the moment.

4) Kiss other places than the mouth. Add variety and intimacy by breaking away to kiss the cheek, forehead, neck, or anywhere else you feel is appropriate.

5) While maintaining a slow rhythm is essential to establishing intimacy, occasional bursts of intensified and quick movements (with tongue and hands) lasting several seconds will increase the passion.

6) Break the lip lock every few minutes to make a compliment about your partner's kissing ability, passion, or how sexy they are.

7) Location will determine the intimacy of the moment. You will have trouble creating a sensual moment in a busy school hallway with people walking by. Isolated areas are the best place to unleash your passion.

8) Use your hands to freely caress your partner's body. You can caress the hair, stroke their back, etc.

HOW TO ATTRACT A WOMEN

Instructions:
*Ask her about herself, her ambitions, her life. Be interested. It's a rare woman who wants to sit around all night listening to a man talk about himself. And the more you try to impress her with your tales of adventure, the less impressed she'll be.

*Be presentable. Women are notorious accessorizers, and whether she'll admit it to you or not, you are an accessory. Other women will judge her on her choice. A clean, good-smelling man with well-fitting clothes is a real prize.

Make eye contact. A lot. And smile - in a friendly way. Don't leer.

*If your are so close enough to give her a chocolate,make it as a practice that you share a chocolate daily.. A recent survey says that most of teen aged girls are adicted to chocolates much..

*Be a gentleman. It's a myth that chivalry is dead, right? There are just a few women out there messing it up for the rest of us who really do like to have doors held open for us.

*Learn to dance. Women will flock to you - all of them will be impressed.

*Be funny without being crude. It's an art.

*Compliment her. Notice her shoes or her watch - something that shows you're paying attention. We'll change our clothes six times before we leave the house; it's nice to find someone who appreciates the final choice.

*It's hard for a woman not to be impressed with a man who is impressed with her. If you really like her, tell her so. You don't have to make a big deal about it, just let her know you admire her.

*Build your lover a web page telling them why you love them so much. Mention special moments and add some images and cool links to topics that interest them. Surf the web with them one day and just "stumble upon it". Or have someone send them an anonymous email with the link inviting them to the page.

*Contact her family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl.For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted.

*Create a loving nickname for your partner. This could be the name she was called by her family when she was a little girl or something that is special just for the two of you.

*Give her some special gift such , Buy your partner a gold fish in a bowl and give it to her with a card saying,“Of all the fish in the sea,you're the fish for me!”

#Phone and cell phones are the mojor device which helps in devoloping a relationship between you and her.. There some facts to handle while talking to her too..

A general fact: for some reason we want a phone call right after we've last seen you. It's the initial separation where we get insecure. So call that night, or call the next day. Then you can take a break for a couple days if you want.

Another general fact: Not all girls like to chat on the phone. Or want to be called every day. Remember to read cues.

A general fact for me, I have no idea if it applies to other people: I HATE being told exactly when you're going to call. I swear I will purposely leave the house between 5 and 5:15 if you tell me that that's when you're going to call. For some reason it's just way too confining.

And I hate being told that you're going to be home between 8 and 10case I want to call you. Don't do it. I won't call. Just leave the whole thing open. 'I'll call you tonight' if you must; 'I'll call you later' even better.

The scenario: You woke up with her this morning. The rule: Call her that night. Weekday, weekend, doesn't matter. If you spent all day with her afterwards you're off the hook, but must call the next day.

The scenario: You visited for the weekend from out of town. The rule: Call as soon as you get home to let her know you got home alright. No exceptions.

The scenario: You just got home from being with your friends, you're drunk, you're thinking about her. The rule: Call her. Drunken phone calls are so much fun. And girls like to know that you're thinking of them when you're drunk. This will also earn you lots of points if you're actually out of town for the weekend and you still call her late Sat. night. BUT be careful with this one. Only do this if you're confident that the girl likes you too and confident that the girl isn't the kind of person who'll get psycho jealous just 'cause you went and had fun without her. (If she's that kind of person you don't want to date her anyway. . .)

The scenario: It's Sunday night. The rule: You call. Always call on Sunday night.

Secrets to Spicing Up Your Love Life

Most everyone knows how important is to maintain sensual intimacy with your partner. It's fairly safe to say that if there is dissatisfaction in the bedroom, there is a certain degree of dissatisfaction within the relationship. However, finding ideas to help keep things stimulating, interesting or just plain new can sometimes feel more like a chore than something to look forward to. This is especially true if you add in long work hours, major family changes or other life stresses you may currently be dealing with. Regardless of your situation, intimacy between each partner should always stay a high priority. Below are three main secrets to making your love life amazing. So… when you're ready to spice things up, these ideas will help get you started.

Allude to Great Times to Come

Anticipation is a very handy sensual weapon at your disposal. It can generate a kind of desire that is difficult to match. Stoke the fires of passion by sending an e-mail or leaving a letter telling your partner to look forward to certain events. Even more seductive; leave a picture that shows what they can look forward to.

A Grand Greeting

We all want to know we were thought about during the day, and most of us love surprises. Pair the two together and you have a potent aphrodisiac. Before your partner gets home, plan a surprise seductive greeting. It can be anything from a simple naked welcome to a planned love hunt with clues for finding you at a special place in your home.

Do Something Out of the Ordinary

Schedules, routines, and our daily life habits can make life seem a little predictable. Keep the fun element in your sex life by mixing things up every now and then. Don't feel pressured to try something new every time. Just keep things simple and once or twice a month, do something a little extra special to say your relationship is a priority.