Wednesday, July 25, 2007

KISS MEANINGS....


Kiss on the hand - I adore you.
Kiss on the cheek - I just want to be friends.
Kiss on the chin - You are cute!
Kiss on the neck - I want you.
Kiss on the lips - I love you.
Kiss on the ears - Let's have some fun.
Kiss anywhere else - You're the best.

WHERE AND HOW TO KISS UR LOVE....


· Behind their ear.
· Tip of their nose.
· Back of their neck.
· Underside of their forearm.
· Curve of their waist.
· Palm of their hand.
· Inside their wrist.
· Under their chin.
· Their eyelids.
· Inside of their ankle.
· Their collar bone.
· Tips of their fingers.
· Their spine.
· Small of their back.
· Their tummy.
· Behind their knees.
Of course, this is just to give you an idea. Aim to shower your love with kisses ALL OVER!

Sunday, July 22, 2007

HOW TO FIND OUT IF UR BOYFRIEND IS CHEATING ON YOU...


Steps
1- Write down how often he texts you per day. You may discover a pattern. If he suddenly starts sending you many fewer texts per day, you should be concerned. He may be conserving his credit for another girl so you may want to check his messages. If you discover texts from more than one girl (not including his mother or sister) he is almost definitely cheating on you and most probably with multiple others.


2-If he buys you an overwhelming amount of flowers or chocolates, this is cause for serious concern.


3-As a last resort, you may want to hire a private detective. It is expensive but more often than not it is extremely necessary.

Tips
Checking his receipts may give you clues as to the gifts he is buying for others.
If he has a diary, find a quiet moment when he is not around and photocopy it. You may want to use this material when confronting him later.

Warnings
Do not use weaponry or violence when confronting your boyfriend. This will lead to someone getting hurt.

HOW TO HANDLE A CHEATING BOYFRIEND...




Has your boyfriend been unfaithful to you? Handle a cheating boyfriend by following these Steps

Step One
Acknowledge and accept your feelings of anger, sadness and disappointment over the betrayal.

Step Two
Don't blame yourself for his actions. Remember that you can't be responsible for anyone's behavior other than your own.

Step Three
Try to set aside your emotions and look at the situation from an outsider's point of view. What advice would you give to your friend?

Step Four
Evaluate whether his behavior has permanently destroyed your trust in him and in your relationship. Do you believe he won't repeat his actions in the future?

Step Five
Confront your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel about his actions. Let him know that cheating is not acceptable behavior in your relationship.

Step Six
If you feel you need to know why he cheated on you to obtain closure for yourself, listen to his explanations about his behavior. Remember that listening does not mean you condone, agree with or accept his behavior.

Step Seven
Don't allow him to manipulate your feelings with sweet words of apology or promises never to cheat on you again. Be realistic. Do you honestly believe this was a one-time event, or do your instincts tell you that he'll probably cheat on you again in the future?

Step Eight
Ask yourself if you would be better off with him or without him. Can you continue to enjoy the relationship, knowing about the betrayal?

Step Nine
Find a constructive outlet for your emotions of disappointment and anger.

Step Ten
Give yourself time to grieve over the betrayal. Whether you stay with him or not, forgive him for his actions so you can heal and move on with your life.

HOW TO BREAK UP PEACEFULLY...



If you're ready to end a relationship, consider how you can break up without conflict.

Steps One


Acknowledge that the relationship is really over. Come to terms with your own feelings and make a firm decision to end the relationship.

Step Two
Don't delay the inevitable. Once you decide to break up with your partner, immediately think about how, when and where you will take action.

Step Three
Make sure you're the one who personally delivers the news. Don't give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone.

Step Four
Select a private place to meet with your partner to end the relationship.

Step Five
Find or schedule an appropriate time. Approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational. Don't announce your intention to break up during a heated argument or a moment of anger.

Step Six
Show your resolve by being firm, decisive and honest. Help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship. Be tactful, not brutal.

Step Seven
Remind your partner that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your life.

Step Eight
Give your partner the closure that he or she needs to accept the breakup; answer questions and talk it over instead of leaving loose ends.

Step Nine
Stay positive as you both make plans to go your separate ways

Saturday, July 21, 2007

10 THINGS GUYS WISH WOMEN KNEW ABT MEN...


Men would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected:

Husbands need to know that their wives respect them both privately and publicly.

A man’s anger is often a response to feeling disrespected by his wife:

When a husband becomes angry with his wife, he may not come out and say, “You’re disrespecting me!” But, there is a good likelihood that he is feeling stung by something his wife has done which he considers disrespectful and humiliating


Men are insecure:

    To men, affirmation from their wives is everything! If they don’t receive this affirmation from their wives, they’ll seek it elsewhere. When they receive regular and genuine affirmation from their wives (not flattery, by the way), they become much more secure and confident in all areas of their lives


Men feel the burden of being the provider for their family:

Men are simply wired with this burden. It’s not a burden they’ve chosen to bearAs such, it is never far from their minds and can result in the feeling of being trapped. While wives cannot release their husbands from this burden, they can relieve it through a healthy dose of appreciation, encouragement, and support.


Men want more sex:

men want more sex is because of their strong need to be desired by their wives. Men simply need to be wanted. Regular, fulfilling sex is critical to a man’s sense of feeling loved and desired.

Sex means more than sex:

When men feel their wives desire them sexually, it has a profound effect on the rest of their lives. It gives them an increasing sense of confidence and well-being that carries over into every other area of his life. The flipside of this coin also carries a profoundly negative affect. When a husband feels rejected sexually, he not only feels his wife is rejecting him physically, but that she is somehow rejecting his life as a husband, provider, and man. This is why making sex a priority in marriage is so incredibly important!

Men struggle with visual temptation:

This means the vast majority of men respond to visual images when it comes to women. And, this doesn’t just mean the guys with wandering eyes. Even the most godly husband cannot avoid noticing a woman who dresses in a way that draws attention to her body. Even if it is just a glance, these visual images are stored away in the male brain as a sort of “visual rolodex” that will reappear without any warning. Men can choose whether to dwell on these images and memories or dismiss them, but they can’t control when these images appear.


    Men enjoy romance, but doubt their skills to be romantic:

    True, many men appear to be unromantic clods, but it doesn’t mean that they want to be that way! Men want to be romantic, but they just doubt their ability to pull it off

    Men care about their wife’s appearance:

    This isn’t saying that all men want their wives to look like the latest supermodel. What men really want is to know that their wives are making an effort to take care of themselves (and not letting themselves go) because it matters to them (the husbands!). Husbands appreciate the efforts their wives make to maintain their attractiveness

    Men want their wives to know how much they love them:

    This was the number one response of men. Men aren’t confident in their ability to express this, but they love their wives dearly. Men want to show how much they love their wives and long for them to understand this fact.

TIPS FOR MAKING UR MARRIAGE WORK...


1- Attending to one another

As married people, we need to recognize how valuable each of us is to the other.If she's had a stressful day at work, with the kids or in paying the bills we don't have enough money to cover, the worst thing u can do upon coming home is to minimize her stress by comparing it to you. "Well, if you think you've had a bad day, listen to this."
Some better responses might include:
"What can I do to help? May I assist with dinner? Do you want to go out later for coffee with a friend? I'll get the kids off to bed."
In general, if you place your spouse's needs before your own, you will be the beneficiary. Selfishness promotes resentment, and resentment engenders conflict. Selflessness, on the other hand, creates understanding, and understanding produces harmony.


2- Getting beyond the attacks

It's so easy to attack. I know many spouses who cannot get beyond criticizing their mates. "Harry, you're never home. You never spend any time with the children. You don't spend enough time with me. You're always with your friends. Why don't we talk anymore?"

"Mary, you don't like my friends. You haven't been watching your diet. The kids are driving me nuts. You could keep the house a little better. The PTA bores me. We don't have sex enough."
You can spend a lifetime finding fault with your spouse. But I'm telling you, it's a lot more rewarding and productive to change the tone of your responses in order to achieve the desired result.

Try this:

"Harry, I like it when we're together. After the kids are asleep, let's get comfy, watch a movie and go to bed early."
"Mary, you look great. Let's go for a walk after dinner. I'll help you clean up the house. When is the next PTA meeting? I'd like to attend."


3-Change yourself first

You can't change the behavior of your spouse by telling him or her to change. Change begins with you. If there is too much tension and resentment in your relationship, it's up to you to moderate the behavior, change the tone, get out of the attack mode. In most cases, your mate will follow your example, not your commands. If there is too much hostility, then it's up to you to stop being hostile. When you want to strike back with a verbal barrage of criticism, try pausing for a second in order to reflect and redirect. Tone and restraint are everything in relationships. Program yourself to walk away from a possible fight. Say a prayer to release the anger. Choose your words carefully. Don't provoke. Moderate. Reach out. Be caring. Try to understand the source of the hostility in your spouse before you respond.


4-Create a partnership

It's cheaper and far less complicated to stay married than it is to get a divorce. Play to one another's God-given talents. Work as a team in raising children, doing household budgets, identifying investment opportunities and planning for the future.

for eg:

If she is great with numbers. She handles ur taxes and finances but if she wants to purchase large items she can talk to you. You can handle calls to plumbers, get the car serviced, handle problems with neighbors and talk with teachers if there are problems.
She can go shopping and ferries the kids to after-school activities. You can deal with spiritual matters and arrange entertainment and vacations. You can share getting the kids ready for bed.


Remember these:

Relationships are dynamic, not static. To develop healthy relationships over the long term, we must be attentive to our spouse's changing needs, moderate the tone of the dialogue, avoid hurtful criticisms, focus on the attributes, work on true intimacy, and build economically viable partnerships.
Remember, marriage must be forever, and your spouse won't change unless you change first
.

GOOD RELATIONSHIPS ARE GOOD FOR YOU


*People in supportive, loving relationships:

*Help each other practically as well as emotionally.

*Are less likely to do things that are bad for their health.

*Tend to be happier and healthier, satisfied with their lives.

*Enjoy the good times and help each other through the tough ones

LOVE POINTERS





1-When you say, "I love you," mean it!


2-Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

3-Love deeply and passionately.


4-You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.


5-Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.

6-When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.


Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.

THE CORNERSTONES OF A RELATIONSHIP







CARING, RESPECT , COMMUNICATION, TRUTH , & COMMITMENT


For a relationship to have a solid foundation to build on you need:
Caring about each other
Respect for each others needs
Communication between each other
Truth with each other on all things big and small
Commitment to each other and the relationship you have!


Simple, but truly needed in a sound relationship

OVER COMING A BROKEN HEART




Step One:

  • Allow yourself time to heal, and know that you can heal. Whether the loss is due to death, rejection, or other reason.
  • It is normal to grieve over a loss of a love for any reason.

  • It usually takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to begin to put their lives back together again. It sometimes takes five years for individuals and families to get over the emotional pain and trauma. Many people can have serious health and emotional problems during this time.

Step Two:

  • Realize that you still can find happiness.

  • Realize that you can control how you think, what you think about, and how much.
  • A key is to concentrate on the positives you have in the present. Not thinking about the future or past.


Step Three:

  • Activily work to feel better.
  • Act happy and smile.
  • Even if you don't feel that way, it should start to make you feel that way. Life will be better.

Healing Helpers

  • Being around people and getting involved in helping others is a good way to accelerate the proces of healing.

  • Laughing helps too, so see a comedy, watch funny things. That is part of the reason the Irish have a party when someone passes away.

  • Helping others helps you loose sight of your own losses.
    It is strongly suggested that you take the intensity of your feelings and re-direct them into doing something constructive that helps others.

Friday, July 20, 2007

SMART WIFE....


Letter from husband ( who is abroad) to wife
Dear Sweetheart:
I can't send my salary this month, so I am sending 100kisses.
You are my sweetheart


=Your husbandAllen=
***************************
His wife replied back after some days to her husband:


Dearest sweetheart,
Thanks for your 100 kisses, I am sending the expenses details.
1. The Milk man agreed on 2 kisses for one month's milk.
2. The electricity man only agreed after 7 kisses.
3. Your house owner is coming every day and taking two or three kissesInstead of the rent.
4. Supermarket owner did not accept kisses only, so I have given him Some otheritems.......
5. Other expenses 40 kisses Please don't worry for me, I have a remaining balance of 35 kisses and I hope I can complete the month using this balance.Shall I plan same way for next months,


Please Advise!!!
Your Sweet Heart

BEFORE AND AFTER MARRIAGE...

Before the marriage:
He: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.
She: Do you want me to leave?
He: NO! Don't even think about it.
She: Do you love me?
He: Of course!
She: Have you ever cheated on me?
He: NO! Why you even asking?
She: Will you kiss me?
He: Yes!
She: Will you hit me?
He: No way! I'm not such kind of person!
She: Can I trust you?
He: Yes.

>>>Now after the marriage you can read it from below to up !!!!

WHAT DOES MARRIAGE MEAN.....??











WHY DO WE LOVE OUR MOM....





































Friday, July 13, 2007

I WISH YOU WERE HERE MY LOVE.....



I wish that you could feel..My arms around you tight,

Holding you up close..All thru out the night.
To let u know that I am there

And never away far,That I will remain

Where ever that you are.


I wish that you could hearMy softly whispered song,

To pull you into sleep..For it's here that we belong.
That you could hear me say

All you need to hear,As I tell you of my love

Whispered soft against your ear.


And you could feel my breath

Warm against your skin,As I let my presence beg you

To let this true love in.
I wish that I could hold you

And whisper long into your night,

Never would you wonder then

As I held you to me tight...

THINKING OF YOU LOABS......



I cant go to sleep I’m just thinking of you
Thinking of tonight
And all of the feelings coming through


When I’m with you,There’s nowhere else I want to be
It’s just right
You with me

You make me melt when you kiss me
You make me faint when you touch me
I have all these emotions just for you

I’ve never felt this way about anyone in my life
Its 2 a.m. and I’m thinking of you

And all the crazy things you do
I’m so happy I want to cry
Just the fact that I’m with my dream guy

Your perfect in everyway
I prayed for someone like you
And God sent you my way

I’m wide-awake thinking of you
You must be an angel
There’s no other explanation

These feelings are real
Not just flirtation
I love being with you

Just watching the stars Is so romantic with you
I don’t care what anyone else has to say
It’s just you and meForever

I pray..I’m crying myself to sleep thinking of you
These are tears of happiness
Its amazing how one person can transform your life

You’re all I want..Everything else is pointless
I don’t know how I feel
But I know that its for real

I can honestly say I love you




Tuesday, July 10, 2007

IT ISN'T LOVE WHEN.......

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, And your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't Love, it's Like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right?
It isn't Love, it's Lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't Love, it's Luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't Love, it's Loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't Love, it's Loyalty.
Do you stay for their confessions of Love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't Love, it's Pity.
Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?
It isn't Love, it's being Unconfident.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?
It isn't Love, it's Infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't Love, it's Friendship.
Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of?
It isn't Love, it's a Lie.
Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?
It isn't Love, it's Charity.

IT IS LOVE WHEN......


Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's Love.
Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?
Then it's Love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's Love.
Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?
Then it's Love.
Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's Love.
But do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you?
Then it's Love.
Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?
Then it's Love.
Now, if Love is painful, and tortures us so,why do we Love?Why is it all we search for in life?This pain, this agony?Why is it all we long for?This torture, this powerful death of self?Why?Because it's...Love

Monday, July 9, 2007

REMEMBER......




































































A POEM TO MY LOVE




Missing You Already

Here I am missing you,
and it hasn't been that long,
What am i to do?

My hero, my love, my soul mate,
That's what you are to me,
So, I can do nothing but wait.

If only i had the power
To bring you to me,
Even if only for an hour...

I long to feel your touch,
My love, my darling,
I miss you so much.

To feel the kiss of your lips,
The burning desire
of the caress of your finger tips.

I know that even though we are apart,
I can have you beside me,
just by looking into my heart.

Is it enough to see me through?
It has to be, my love,
because I am so in LOVE WITH YOU.

***************************************

YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT AT THE DISTANCE, BUT I WISH YOU WERE HERE, NOW!!!HONEY I WANT TO WAKE UP BESIDE YOU...I MISS YOU SOOO MUCH LOABS...


Sunday, July 8, 2007

A Way To Get A Man's Attention FAST




If you REALLY want to impress a man who is flirting with you... instead of basking in his flirtatious attention, ask him - in an equally flirtatious way - this simple question:
"So tell me... what kind of woman do you respect?"
Adding a flirtatious element to a serious question is fun and inviting way of building SEXUAL TENSION that will instantly separate you from every other woman he's ever met. It lets him know that you're sassy, smart, and selective - an IRRESISTABLE combination.

The 3 Deadly Mistakes Women Make With Men Without EVER Realizing It...




Through my research and personal experience, I've found that these 3 mistakes are responsible for more failed dates and relationships with men than any other factors. Here they are:

» Mistake #1:

Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure"Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man's "Insecurity Alert" and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs... and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.
As you read through these signals men pick up on as "needy" and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:


Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends.

Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.
Speaking negatively about other women.

When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.
Too much physical contact, especially in public.

If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior... but you'll never hear about this from him. It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.


» Mistake #2:


Appealing To His "Sexual" Side Instead Of His Emotional Side .Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone... and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well. Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man's mind... and keep them connected. Men are out for far more than just sex... and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man's heart... and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF.


» Mistake #3:


Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man's "Relationship Potential"A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION.
Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS.
When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts... leading us to overlook potential partner's deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.
If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why.
It's important to be able to size a guy up and spot any "warning signs" of a future bad relationship FAST... so you don't waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn't right for you... or who will leave you heartbroken.

Saturday, July 7, 2007

TOUCHING AND HOLDING



Back Rub Skills
If there's a single skill that can be incredibly powerful in any relationship, it is the ability to give back, neck and foot massages. These moments not only build up your connection with each other but also help reduce stress and make you both happy

Guide Her While you Walk
When you walk together, put your hand on the small of her back, guiding her and letting her know you´re there. If you're the girl, put your hand on his arm, walking beside him. It feels very romantic!

Hairing
Run your fingers through your partner's hair and speak softly to them while they fall asleep.

Hold Hands
Holding hands is something that 4 year olds do - and that 94 year olds do. It's the most basic form of affection there is. Hold hands with your darling, whether it's while you drive down the road in your car or walk in the mall. Give your love a squeeze to say "I'm here, and I love you."

Hold the waist
when you are walking with your girlfriend put your arm around her waist
Holding
Boys, if you've just kissed a girl and you are walking with her, and you had your arms round her when you kissed, as you start walking, keep one arm around her and put one hand either at the bottom of her back, just above her butt, or if you're more comfortable then put it on her butt!!