Monday, December 24, 2007

Is it Love, Lust or Loneliness

People talk about re-bound relationships as if it’s a dirty word, saying how can it possibly last, when it’s really just a replacement-date to get you over the last one, which went horribly wrong!
Can it be love?

Can a rebound relationship really be love? Yes, sometimes it is love, and in fact some people swear that love at first sight is real, tangible and for life. But it can also be lust or loneliness. Know what, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Revolving Door:

Relate to the revolving door of lovers in and out of your life? Familiar with the term 'Rebound', it's not always a nasty word. Each connection, no matter how fast-and-furious, serves in some way. Learn from it, don’t harbor regrets, and be thankful for the experience.
Love Sick Loneliness:

For some love-sick beings it means trying to fill the void of the past, Mr. or Mrs. Wonderful and the quicker the better. After breaking away from the illusive love you thought was going to last forever, its natural to want to fill that void by falling into the arms of the next charming lover.

Longing for Lust:

The hot and heavy physical act of lust, or even just a lustful feeling can be like an electric jolt replacing the numbness that often follows a breakup. If lets get physical works, it can be positive. But, keep it in perspective. If it’s a physical relationship, be honest with each other, and don’t expect anything else.

Relationship Deja Vu:

The reality for too many people is you fall right back into the arms of someone who is ever so familiar in looks, character or personality of the one you just left. If the reason why the last romantic adventure didn't last the distance hasn’t been resolved, then valuable lessons are still to be learnt. If an attitude change hasn’t taken place, then getting back on the same ole merry-go-round is unlikely to work.

Flawless and Faultless:

A rebound relationship can quickly fall apart if there are unrealistic expectations about how a love-mate is to be, look and act. And when they inevitably fall off the pedestal, disappointment sets in. Then, unfortunately, all too often a pattern of infatuation and resentment follows.

Of course, there's always the exception to these patterns and there are the lovers who do live happily ever after, but it's not without work, which includes nurturing their relationships with love, tenderness, trust and honesty. Don’t be fooled, to love and be loved, means putting focus, energy and attention into you and your love-mate.

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