Wednesday, June 27, 2007


When a relationship doesn’t work out move on. Don’t waste valuable time holding on. This will sabotage your getting into a relationship that will meet your needs –• Don’t seek revenge – when things don’t work out don’t hang on, let it go. Revenge makes you look desperate, lonely, and emotionally disturbed. Revenge is a way of staying attached. It never, never gets him back.

• Don’t stay friends with him.Staying friends with your ex is often an excuse to somehow stay connected to him it’s sometimes a woman’s inability to detach from a man who’s rejected her, or is not interested in having the kind of relationship that she wants.

Staying friends with an ex doesn’t always work and a person can get even more hurt or deeply disappointed at the very least. The man usually never “comes to his senses” by continuing to hang out with you, and realize what he’s missing. In fact, he’s more likely to fantasize and wonder about what you’re up to and who you’re with if he has no contact with you.
So unless you have children together, or are both involved in a business, I strongly suggest not to stay friends with someone who’s rejected you, or did not want the relationship you wanted.
• Don’t contact him.Do whatever it takes to not contact him. Do not e-mail him, I.M. him, go to his house, his job, or call him.Each time you connect with him it makes it more difficult to let go of him. The bond keeps recementing. The memory traces of him in your brain keep strengthening rather than eroding. That’s why the saying “time heals all wounds” is true. The less memories you have of your ex the easier it is to forget him. It’s mother nature doing her work.

Here’s some things you can do if you don’t want to call him.

- Do something to distract yourself
- Pamper yourself
- Have an emergency therapy session
- Think of all his negative qualities
- Think of all the possible negative things that can happen if you do call
- Try to meet new people
- Call someone in your support system
- Stop whatever trigger is causing you to call your ex

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